Your guarantees in life

There are a few guarantees in life.  One of them is that time passes.

Whatever you do, or don’t do in life, time is going to pass anyway.   This thought helped create a life that I love (though honestly, I think it was a bit of a fluke at the time).  One of the key turning points to getting to where I am today was going back to study.  Making the decision to do that wasn’t really easy.  One of the biggest limiting beliefs I had running in my mind was about the time that it was going to take to complete the study.  I calculated that if I studied part-time, it was going to take me six years to complete my degree.  “Six years!”  I thought.  And then, by some stroke of wisdom, it occurred to me…

The time is going to pass anyway.

In six years time, you’ll be six years older.  Guaranteed.  That left me with only one question:  Is six years time, are you going to have a completed degree or not?  When framing the question like that, the only answer for me to that question was ‘yes’.

Be very wary of letting go of your dream because of concern about the time it will take to accomplish it.  The time is going to pass anyway.

Does this concept seem logical?  These days, it seems so logical and obvious to me.  But the thought about how long the degree was going to take almost stopped me from even starting.

For me, thinking about the time – the six loooong years – was also associated with thoughts about what those six years would be like.  “It’ll be six years of being a student again!”  There were thoughts about not having much money because I wouldn’t able to work full-time, and thoughts about not having much of a social life when I’m too busy studying.  “Oh, it could be really tough, and there will be SIX years of it!”

I come across similar fears all the time in people that I’m coaching, or friends or sometimes just random conversations with people I barely know.  These fears create the unlived-yet-dreamed-about lives…  Such as people who still haven’t started the course they dream about doing.  Or people who don’t stick to their promise of saving a deposit for the home they dream of because saving isn’t ‘fun’.  Or people who stay in unhealthy relationships for far too long.  Or people who [fill in whatever it is for you].

Whatever you want to do, start today.  I don’t care how small a step you decide to take, as long as you are facing forward.

Because the time is going to pass anyway.  Guaranteed.  Never ending until the day you die.

Death.  Can I say that here?

May as well because that’s one of the other guarantees in life.  And just in case all this talk about time passing didn’t make you depressed (or inspired?!), I just looked up the statistics for the average life expectancy and it’s about 83 years!  I can’t speak for everyone but that doesn’t actually sit well with me because I’m planning to live longer than that.

But I will sit with.  Absorb it.  And register that there is always only so long that I could ignore the guarantee that…

The time is going to pass anyway.

Much love,

Kylie

“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose.” – Steve Jobs (1955-2011)

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