In last week’s article I invited readers to do a ‘pillow challenge’ in preparation for the New Year. It was a series of thought provoking questions to ask at the very end of the day (or the beginning of the following day). It’s a good time to ask thought provoking questions, when you’re not right in the middle of all the day-to-day happenings. It’s when you’re much less likely to be acting on an impulse or reacting to something external. It’s at those times when you’re likely to admit truths to yourself.
Throughout the day you say and do many things. Some are positive, some are trivial and some you may not be proud of. The things we’re not proud of we may find ourselves justifying. At the end of the day though, I know. I know the truth. I will either know it in my thoughts. I’d call that a conscious knowing. Or I’ll know it in my feelings. That’s an unconscious knowing when I believe I’m right or justified about something but I have negative feelings telling me otherwise.
Similarly, the end of the day is also a good time to get in touch with what you want for yourself. If you didn’t read last week’s article, or didn’t do the pillow challenge but now think you might like to, you can go to it here.
Particularly for those people who did the pillow challenge, I’m going to explore one of the questions in some more detail…
What is my dream for myself?
How did you go with this question? Did you get connected to what you really want or did you hamper your vision for yourself? (This is the pre-Christmas hamper I don’t suggest giving yourself). I see it regularly in coaching; people see in their mind the things they want for themselves and then, almost as quickly as the vision appeared, they begin thinking of all the reasons why it’s not possible or why they are not capable of achieving it. So the vision disappears, almost as though it never existed. At the end of the day though, you know the truth about that.
To encourage your mind to stay with the vision of what you want for yourself, ask the question: What would I do if I had no fear? Take heed of the answer to that question – that is your truth talking to you. The action steps to creating your vision can be decided on later (and I’m planning to write something about that next week). For now, know that whatever you decide, no matter how big or small, whether it’s a positive goal or something you’re focused on because you’re afraid of it, your brain will begin working on it and noticing what’s relevant for you and your goal (for more on that see article: It costs nothing to use your brain to your advantage). So get careful about what you vision for yourself. By that I mean, give yourself the gift of being willing to listen to your truth.
If the truth you have within you right now is that you hampered your vision, give it another go.